tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post8087979448800481138..comments2024-01-06T16:56:17.910-06:00Comments on Musings & Meanderings: LonghandMelaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01830964784682748651noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-81520331198243750462012-07-31T21:08:15.746-05:002012-07-31T21:08:15.746-05:00I agree entirely with you in how emotional it can ...I agree entirely with you in how emotional it can be to hand write something to someone. Especially in this age of emails and texts and such, a hand written word takes on a whole new perspective. That being said, I am glad to hear you've learned to set better boundaries with those who have hurt you - even if they are family. As a counselor, I understand how hard that can be sometimes. I tell clients that you have two kinds of family - family of origin and family you build for yourself. I get the feeling you're doing well building the latter while dealing appropriately with the former.dontpanic2011https://www.blogger.com/profile/03748395349482914590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-49664713809912592892012-07-28T14:27:16.839-05:002012-07-28T14:27:16.839-05:00Very emotional. You hit the personal part of lette...Very emotional. You hit the personal part of letter writing on the nose. I am horrible at sending letters (or any mail for that matter.)SAMhttp://frommywriteside.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-46771920611680837172012-07-28T13:15:18.908-05:002012-07-28T13:15:18.908-05:00I am the writer of many unsent letters!I am the writer of many unsent letters!Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01830964784682748651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-70666635776106300142012-07-28T13:12:57.591-05:002012-07-28T13:12:57.591-05:00Thank you! It is amazing how much emotion comes th...Thank you! It is amazing how much emotion comes through in handwriting.Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01830964784682748651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-44346186551244071472012-07-28T13:12:09.564-05:002012-07-28T13:12:09.564-05:00Definitely nf. More from the world of dysfunction ...Definitely nf. More from the world of dysfunction that is my family of origin. Glad you liked it (and recognized it as nf!)Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01830964784682748651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-27499008501198516292012-07-28T13:11:00.858-05:002012-07-28T13:11:00.858-05:00That was a big realization for me. If I won't ...That was a big realization for me. If I won't allow other people to treat me this way, why do I let my parents?Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01830964784682748651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-42356729631066537112012-07-28T13:10:21.341-05:002012-07-28T13:10:21.341-05:00I focus on my immediate family too. Writing unsent...I focus on my immediate family too. Writing unsent letters at least helps me clarify things.Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01830964784682748651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-71512009209503878602012-07-28T13:09:00.703-05:002012-07-28T13:09:00.703-05:00Thanks for the positive feedback! It's taken m...Thanks for the positive feedback! It's taken me years to understand the decline in my handwriting is not a failure, but an emotional response.Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01830964784682748651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-6645691619581308682012-07-28T13:08:08.857-05:002012-07-28T13:08:08.857-05:00Thank you!Thank you!Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01830964784682748651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-88467435318690965362012-07-28T13:07:25.364-05:002012-07-28T13:07:25.364-05:00Thanks. It always fascinates me where these prompt...Thanks. It always fascinates me where these prompts take me.Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01830964784682748651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-64305758121665201712012-07-28T13:06:50.187-05:002012-07-28T13:06:50.187-05:00Six months of silence from me has at least gotten ...Six months of silence from me has at least gotten my parents' attention. And it's been great for me : )<br />That whole head beating thing is just pointless.Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01830964784682748651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-10901734124094794342012-07-28T13:05:51.030-05:002012-07-28T13:05:51.030-05:00Thanks. This is non-fiction (all I write). One of ...Thanks. This is non-fiction (all I write). One of those unsent letters. You probably know the kind.Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01830964784682748651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-69454381041642631822012-07-28T13:00:48.839-05:002012-07-28T13:00:48.839-05:00I really liked the way the pen absorbs the emotion...I really liked the way the pen absorbs the emotion and pours it onto the page. <br />Sometimes it's good to at least write it down, even if it's never sent.Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00955772837133239769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-75801675924969721942012-07-28T08:02:49.864-05:002012-07-28T08:02:49.864-05:00Oh, you captured this so powerfully! I'm sorry...Oh, you captured this so powerfully! I'm sorry for the difficult time (this sounds like NF, not fiction), but glad you had the courage to speak up.Kathleen Basihttp://www.kathleenbasi.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-86173739867139473692012-07-27T22:17:49.111-05:002012-07-27T22:17:49.111-05:00I love the last 3 sentences. Perfect touch. I like...I love the last 3 sentences. Perfect touch. I like it how you showed that you can see emotion in letters -- if the writing's jerky, or wobbly, or scrunched together. Very true!CG @ Paper Furyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14954615708675952085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-39947634982969361902012-07-27T18:25:31.415-05:002012-07-27T18:25:31.415-05:00My mother and I have had a rocky path, and while w...My mother and I have had a rocky path, and while we have a decent relationship now, I cannot pretend that I don't expect her to fly off the deep end. <br /><br />I will not tolerate from my family any action or inaction that I would not tolerate from a friend or a stranger. I am capable of infinite forgiveness, but that doesn't mean I have to be anyone's doormat. <br /><br />So, yes, I hear you. I'm sorry you cannot have the mother that you deserve. But you have a beautiful soul and it shines brightly without her poison. Keep the faith.Shelton Keys Dunninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10551666631783476472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-44396243522962258452012-07-27T13:54:15.775-05:002012-07-27T13:54:15.775-05:00Oh, I can relate. There are certain people in my f...Oh, I can relate. There are certain people in my family I would love to tell things to but I know if I do they won't get it, it won't change anything, and I'll still feel stressed and angry.<br /><br />So I've let go. I focus on the family that matters, not the peripheral.Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03472645003197467754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-11013341971344633222012-07-27T13:05:07.485-05:002012-07-27T13:05:07.485-05:00Great job. Love how you connected the emotions wit...Great job. Love how you connected the emotions with her writing. <br />but I cannot hide the emotion. It comes pouring out through the tip of the pen. << Amazing line!Patricia JLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17582005500429122486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-6832609040798188452012-07-27T12:52:02.270-05:002012-07-27T12:52:02.270-05:00A great entry...I can feel the pain coming through...A great entry...I can feel the pain coming through. Great job!Tessahttp://www.finallyawriter.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-86416353369135242602012-07-27T12:21:24.900-05:002012-07-27T12:21:24.900-05:00i enjoyed this take on the prompt, and could reall...i enjoyed this take on the prompt, and could really feel pain.christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02983259980848913151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-62024800230967995582012-07-27T09:41:34.539-05:002012-07-27T09:41:34.539-05:00My mother will never understand how I feel and how...My mother will never understand how I feel and how her reactions have impacted my life. It took me a very long time to realize she will not ever be the parent I need or want her to be. One of the hardest parts to get through is that society pressures us tolerate behavior from our parents that we surely wouldn't tolerate from others and to continue trying to make things work. After many years of unsuccessfully beating my head against a wall I finally came to the realization that the family I am part of now, my husband and children, is the only family that matters and I walked away from her for good.Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07918145950706430117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5739107202118962075.post-10747010174247222392012-07-27T09:25:45.865-05:002012-07-27T09:25:45.865-05:00I feel her pain, she is emotional in defending her...I feel her pain, she is emotional in defending her home and marriage...at least that is what I hear.katie eggemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00615362861509258088noreply@blogger.com