Some of the changes were predictable. My kids have grown up. My daughter is out on her own living life as an adult, and doing quite well, thank you very much. If you'd told me just a few years ago that's where we'd be I would never have believed you.
My son is about to start is final semester in college. He's away right now on his first "adult" trip -- he planned and organized the whole thing and is driving across the country with his best friend seeing the sights and experiencing the great outdoors the way he loves.
Those little babies I worried over have changed. They are grown-ups. Fully functional, "I can take care of myself" adults. I am so very proud of both of them. It also means I've done my job. Not that I'm no longer a mom because I'll always be that, but there's a fundamental shift in the relationship once you reach this point. I'm a touchstone for my kids. They know I'm here. They know I'll listen, talk, advise, and empathize, but they have their own lives to live now, and that's a good thing. (As long as they stay in touch regularly!)
So whether I like it or not, it's time for a change in my job description. It's unrealistic to limit myself to stay-at-home-mom at this point as I don't have any kids to be at home with anymore. I'm just not sure what I want that new job description to say.
I've looked at some part-time opportunities and applied for a couple of full-time positions that didn't pan out. I'm not really sorry the full-time didn't happen. I don't really want a 9-to-5 job if I don't have to have one. But I'm noticing the truth in something I was told a long time ago. It's pretty hard for a 53-year-old woman to compete with all those 20-somethings searching for jobs. I'm fully qualified. I have a masters degree in my field from a good university. But I have a feeling that on paper I don't look very impressive with those longs breaks from employment. It's difficult to get credit for being a SAHM in the workplace. Most people just don't realize what good training that can be for almost any job.
I'm not complaining. I don't HAVE to get a job right now. No one is going to starve or go without anything if I don't go to work, and I have absolute faith that God will provide whatever I need. I'm just wondering out loud about this point in my life. There is a lot of change going on, which leads to a lot of uncertainty, which means I'm trusting in God more and more.
And that is a good thing.
linking up with Writer's Workshop
It's a great place to be, isn't it? My kids are grown and off on their own adventures now too. I still have to work though, but am lucky to only have to part time. I'm trying to write more with the rest of my time. I hope you find something you love to fill your time and maybe make a little money on the side. Stopping by from Mama Kat's :-)
ReplyDeleteSounds like you and I are in similar places with kids growing up and out, leaving us former SAHMs looking for new meaningful purpose. Thanks for the reminder to trust in God. Happy New Year!
ReplyDeleteWe are at similar points in our lives. Three years ago I returned to my school social work job after a 19 year "lag". I got in by covering a maternity leave. Once that woman returned, they juggled schedules and made room for me part-time. I don't know if there is an option like short-term or substitute employment in your field. If so, it might help you get your foot in the door. Best wishes.
ReplyDeleteI sort of dread creeping up on that next stage of life. I don't want a 9-5 job either. I only take orders from children. ;)
ReplyDeleteFunny - I've read about several people this week who are facing life changes that are sending them back into the workforce and I'm working to remove myself so I can work from home.
ReplyDeleteOne thing is certain - change is inevitable, whether positive or negative. How we face it makes all the difference. I wish you success and happiness!